I finished reading Dear Cary by Dyan Cannon, I read it only because I was curious and was under no illusion that she would have forgiven but I've read some of the stuff she said about him in the past and I enjoyed the great majority of this book.
Cary had seen Dyan on the TV but he took time convincing and then courting her, there was no pressure for a sexual relationship and they dated for a couple of years before marrying. Cary of course didn't want to marry again, he felt he pushed all his wives away from him and reading what Dyan says about Cary's mother and how she was with him, she wasn't the mother of his youth, she had spent twenty years in an awful mental institution that had torn her spirit away. The visits as Dyan tell's them were absolute torture for him and the removal of his mother from his childhood was something he could never square with himself, he felt a great guilt for deserting her, even though it was hardly his fault. After I read this I could forgive him all of his behaviour towards Dyan, which is told only from one side, he married her because she insisted on it, he was torn but didn't want to lose her, he was captivated by Jennifer. Once married though their relationship fell apart, Cary didn't like going out and didn't like the way Dyan dressed, which with an age gap of 33 years it's not surprising. He was convinced that LSD held the answers to inner harmony and of course had doctors who validated this for hm. There's not doubt that it helped him and I think Betsy Drake had also indulged, he believed in it and felt it held the answers for him and Dyan but she could not tolerate it. That's about as bad as it gets, apart from the breakdown she had caused by LSD and then the alcohol and marijuna she took after her and Cary split. She doesn't come across as a fit mother for the young Jennifer and if anything she comes off far worse from her own words than Cary.
I'd love to read Jennifer's book. She sure was the most absolute love of his life.
Failure is unimportant. It takes courage to make a fool of yourself - Charlie Chaplin