That was no apology. Look at it again. Regarding the male poster, of course people can change their mind. But to disrespect an election and think of all kinds of reasons to criticize it, after it has taken place and a result exists, is not right. And it just happens to be a poster I had a very high regard for on the old board, which is why it saddens me.Cuthbert wrote: ↑December 24th, 2022, 4:04 amI think I figured out who you are referring to and I do not see how him changing his mind offends you. People change their minds all the time. Likewise, the other poster apologized for her post. The stuff you are threatening to leave over seems really innocuous to me.LostHorizons wrote: ↑December 23rd, 2022, 11:54 pmIt isn't really important who the other individual is.
When TCM announced the sunsetting, I posted about how, although of course we love to discuss film, it was the impending loss of the community that we built up over the years that I lamented most. There are dozens of sites to discuss films. I chose to join the two boards which promised some continuation of our community, and I favoured this one, because a few of my favourite posters settled here.
I'm not a sensitive creature; I don't take offense easily. It's more a question of disillusionment. Two posters whom I admired, and who were part of the reason I settled on the SSO, behaved badly: the one with a really horrid, nasty post, which was offensive on so many levels; the other with (I felt) an irrational disregard for the election after the fact, which he continued to harp on.
So my point is that the justification I had for coming here has been diminished. I'll see how things go. I absolutely do not understand how an election which expressed desire for something fairly innocuous can be ignored. It would not hurt the minority who voted "no" to add a "like" button which can be used by the majority who voted "yes" and can be ignored by anyone who wants to ignore it.
The "yes" side won the election. The moderators can do as they please; it would just seem to me to be very odd if they did not respect the results. That in conjunction with the fall from my grace of two individuals who were part of my reason for coming here, would make me seriously reconsider whether I wanted to stay here.
My absence would certainly not be a loss for the SSO. I can't even seem to edit a post without pressing the "quote" button by mistake, thereby creating numerous copies of my post. Who needs that?
But nor is it right for me to "threaten" to leave. I'll go if/when I'm ready, no one needs to hear my whinging over that; And I would look in on occasion.
This has been a mean-spirited discussion, on all our parts, but particularly mean-spirited on the part of the minority, who lost the election. A couple of those posters are people whom I've respected in the past. Give us our damn "like" button, we voted for it; and let the losing side in the election -- particularly the two people whom I've always had a high regard for -- concede graciously.
(Sorry about the font size of my post. It's difficult here, after a few levels of quoting, to differentiate between responses, so the size thing helps.)
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On one point I agree. This has all been a mean spirited discussion and the like button won. Just give the button, I say.